It's slowly closing in on one year since my marriage ended. While I am still legally married, the beginning of the emotional end started in the Fall of '08.
Since then, we had another anniversary; we did not spend it together. We've both celebrated birthdays and his was a milestone one. We didn't see each other for either. Separately, we acknowledged the one-year anniversary of the deaths of his parents, my original oldies. Not to mention kids' birthdays, friends' anniversaries and the holidays.
Not that this is any harder for me than it would be anyone else but I love routine. I cherish tradition. And I love the idea of knowing our favorite menus, our regular vacation buddies and our holiday traditions.
We are not enemies and I don't think we're going to be. We're friendly but not friends. "Acquaintances" feels wrong -- it implies knowing someone but not well. We know each other scarily well.
So what are we? We are no longer a we.
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You are still Sheri & Dan, just not the same Sheri & Dan.
ReplyDeleteYou will share wonderful memories mixed in with some not so wonderful memories.
You will have a smile, when something reminds you of what was.
He will be a better person for what you gave him as well as you being a better person from what he gave you.
Because you are no longer the old "Sheri & Dan", doesn't mean you can't take what you got from that part of your life and incorporate it into the "new Sheri". New Sheri will always be Old Sheri, just, better, wiser, and stronger.
You will carry on traditions. Many you brought into the marriage. You will thrill yourself with new traditions, new routines,new vacations,and new menus.
Oh what a wonderful tapestry you wear! Some weathered, tattered patches, mixed with some new and colorful pieces ready to be added.
Remember, "It's a wonderful life."
You have been Blessed to have so much fabulous, rich experiences.
Relax, Breathe, and you will enjoy.
I love you forever, Bestie!